Miscarriage is often a very lonely and confusing emotional experience. You may not have told others that you were pregnant and you may not want to explain the details of your miscarriage. This will limit the emotional support you would otherwise receive at a difficult time of your life.
If you have already shared with some people about your miscarriage, you may have found that many do not grasp the full extent of your loss. Some people downplay the significance of what happened. Most people will not realize that, along with your baby, you have lost your dreams and hopes of what this baby would have brought to you. Professional support can help you look at the different emotions and grief.
Still birth, losing a baby beyond the 20th week of gestation or shortly after delivery is sometimes called “the invisible loss”. A baby’s death, whenever or however it occurs, is a profound loss. The fact that your baby was carried in the womb or held in your arms for such a short while, and thus known by so few people, may add to the pain of losing the child and make grief even more isolating.
When a baby dies, normal symptoms of grief are varied. Parental reactions and intensity of feelings may differ. Typical reactions include crying, a need to talk about the death and the details of what happened, feelings of hopelessness, helplessness, anger, guilt, blame, loss of appetite, overeating, sleeplessness, irritability, nability to concentrate, aching arms and frequent sighing. Grief can last far longer than you or others may expect and has many ups and downs. Trying to share these feelings asn express them within a professional, safe environment may be a way to relieve yourself and mourn.
Abortion, some women who have had an abortion can experience guilt, sadness, ambivalence, and other intense emotions. Sometimes shortly after the abortion, sometimes years later. Looking at your experiences in a safe environment can help you deal with these feelings and find closure.